Tuesday, March 06, 2007

reveal-ation

I've always wished that I kept a journal. I've gone through periods of my life when I've started writing in a journal and kept it up for, oh.....say three or four days, and other than being amusing to look at in hindsight, I never kept it up long enough to be anything of significance. So here sit I, with 3-4 pages of journal entries peppering 4-5 journals, the location of most I'm unsure about.

I think the reason I haven't is largely because of the time it takes to sit down and write in a journal, not to mention the ensuing cramp in my hand. When I'm actually inspired to write something down, it's generally lengthy and involved, and I don't have the desire to spend my free time writing on paper. Typing on the other hand, though it still takes some time, takes SUBSTANTIALLY less time and much less finger/hand/wrist exertion. Which is part of the reason I like to blog. I like to write. About myself, my friends, social goings on, current events, Jesus, you name it.

However..... *cue dramatic crescendo of music*

On my blog, there are limitations. You see, I have feelings, and I go through struggles - with other people, with myself, things in my past, etc. and I don't always want to share them with anyone worldwide with access to a think box (read: computer). It really is theraputic, though for me to process my feelings and emotions and some such onto paper/screen. It helps me work through things, and sometimes it even reveals depths to those feelings and emotions that I didn't realize were there.

I know some people write things on their blogs about specific people in their lives, and some people mention those people critically. It boggles my mind that people can do that with a clear conscience. They write about people that can read what they're writing! It's almost a passive/aggresive way of getting your anger/hurt out there without having to face a person. Then there is a part of me that admires it. "Here are my feelings, like them or not. It really hurt me when you did this, and it's affected me, deeply." But there's also a part of me - the avoid confrontation and people not liking me or a decision I made at all costs part of me - that shudders at the thought of this.

I guess that since I don't like to put people on "front street" all exposed and stuff, I don't like to write about certain issues in this "e-journal" o' mine. Not everything is for everybody, and some things aren't for anybody. Just me & J.

On the topic of such things, I actually really appreciate censorship in people more than I appreciate a lack of censorship. I admire honesty, don't get me wrong. If I've offended someone, I want to know, but there are ways of communicating that don't have to a) make a person feel small, or b) make a person feel attacked and subsequently, defensive. I think that might lead into a whole other post in itself, so....NEXT!

I know I can't find a solution to this that involves me blogging cryptically, i.e. "This friend of mine who's a girl and was wearing that green number on Tuesday really hurt my feelings and I don't know how to handle it." I might just start keeping a file on my computer labeled "Top Secret Diary Folder - Do Not Open Even If You Really Want To," though my computer will tell me that the title contains too many characters. I just really like the idea of a handwritten journal.

Maybe I just need to get over it. Typing is the new writing. Hoopa!

3 comments:

marcie said...

i don't mean to take away from this blog (and it is a good one), so everyone else, just ignore this.

dearest becki, i saw you gave up myspace for lent and i wasn't sure how else to reach you (well, besides using a phone, and i'm bad at that). so please email me at hopemarisol@gmail.com

ok. talk to you soon!

Jenni said...

Two thoughts:

One, I'm a big fan of digital media. As a book and its contents may fade, get lost, etc., digital media ensures some form of what you write/type will be easily accessible. For example, I have a separate blog for just myself that's set to private and no one can see it but me and Justin. In a way, I've sort of willed the information to him -- I don't want it lost in case something happens to me -- which is morbid, but I roll that way.

Two, some schools are not teaching cursive anymore. Sort of off topic, but I like writing cards and journals in cursive, so sort of on topic. Sort of. I want a tablet PC -- that would be perfect. Then I could blog what I actually write.

Okay. Bye.

Jerome said...

create another blog. write under a psuedonym. then put a post on your blog saying, hey check out my friends blog!

but now that i posted this, you can't really do that...or maybe you can. either way, i like this blog.